Posted in: enart.nnmj.com Date: March 12th, 2010
What questions would you have specifically if I were to interview you or if you were to be able to speak freely to your husband about his usage or pornography?my sweet husband does not watch porn he does not have to. i keep him satisfiedWhy does porn always depict angry sex?When you know that your wife finds this so personally offensive, when you know that this causes the breakup of many families, when you know that it negatively impacts your ability to give your wife as much sex as she would like, why do you fight to have this addiction?
Just theoretically. One of the reasons I'm still single is that I won't marry someone into porn. And for women who are anti-porn, they shouldn't either.
Edit: We know the human male is wired for "variety," but we also know the human female mind is not. Marriage is supposed to be two people coming together as one. Today, women are expected to accept things they're not wired to accept in order to "keep a man." I think this is garbage and I think a man has much more to gain from a wife than many women gain nowadays from a husband.
For example, we know that when never married men are compared to husbands:
1. Husbands get more sex
2. Husbands live healthier
3. Husbands live longer
4. Husbands report a greater quality of life
But hey, this is America. I just think if a man prefers porn, he probably shouldn't drag a family into it."How come I am not good enough to keep your attention?" "How can you love our daughters and want to protect them, while looking at pornography? Would you like the girls to be porn stars, or does the thought of that bother you. Why?"I'm not distraught about porn use. I watch it with him so....I can't really help you here. Sorry.I hope your question applies to distraught girlfriends too. If i were able to speak freely to my boyfriend about his porn obsession, i would ask him why he wants to look at other naked girls when he knows that it hurts me and makes me feel like crap. I would tell him that it makes me feel like he is thinking about his porn when we make love and that is the worst of all. I would say that i am starting to resent him, because he rejects me and prefers pictures and movies rather than me. i am so sad. and whenever i try to talk to him about it and tell him how i feel he gets defensive and tells me not to look. How can i not when i know that he is looking? then he would turn it around on me and say that its my fault because i have been a bit$h and he would pay attention to me if i stopped. but the only reason why i have been acting the way i have is because he stopped touching me and letting me touch him when i got pregnant and its been 5 months since i had the baby and he still doesnt touch me or let me touch him. i think that we both have some fault in this and we need to acknowledge the fact that its wrong its needs to stop.I doubt if your wife would read it. too much like a bus man's holiday!i think you have a good q here. On this forum in particular you see alot of q's from women asking y was her hubby looking at porn. And you have the men giving the old stand by excuse it's just what men do. You have the women who say they don't care...and they watch it together. I think the huge difference between those who don't care, and those who do, is the sexual interaction between them and their spouse. No woman feels "dirtier" than finding out her man beat off just hours or minutes before she came on to him...it's like she came second, and she shouldn't have to. When married, porn used together to spice things up or used when wifey isn't around for extended periods of time is one thing...porn used to replace what is natural and desired from what i can see from alot of women then becomes a problem. If two people are on the same page in a sexual/emotional relationship in general, you have those women that say, no problem. It is when a woman knows her man is using porn, and beating off and the sexual relationship is lacking that you start to see a problem, and almost a resentment towards porn, and the spouse using/abusing it. And you have the inevitable feeling that their husband is preferring porn to the real thing, which leads to feelings of inadequacy and competition. And in alot of cases, leads to cheating by the woman if she is feeling rejected... And results in questions and answers like you have here. Do I in particular have any q's that i wouldn't ask my old man...no. I have asked him myself when i don't like what's going on. The conversations aren't always easy. I just really liked the q and was looking at the answers, and hoped some of the moron husbands that excuse what they do read some of them and tried to understand why their wife maybe felt the way she did. All these women that ask q's about porn aren't insecure...porn and the over-use of it, and the man's lack of fulfilling their wives sexual desires are what makes them feel insecure. I wonder if they ever once thought how it feels to have their wife laying in bed, knowing her husband is cranking one off in front of a computer to some fantasy that will never happen, instead of going to bed and making love to his wife...and that's the thing, they think we don't know it's happening and most times, we do.
and ruth is right...men stand to gain alot more from getting married than women do, yet women still find themselves feeling they have to sacrifice to be married....and it seems a little ridiculous.I have one.
Why do you think it is normal and healthy to want to have sex with a tv or computer screen and not with a real woman?WHY IS EVERY QUESTION YOU ASK ON HERE ABOUT SEX?
I think you should write this article - "Sex Addicts - Written for Sex Addicts by a Sex Addict"My question would be this:
"You realize that's someone's DAUGHTER, right?".
Just happens to be what my Husband says to all his buddies when they are pushing porn stars/ porn flix/ porn talk on him.
Amazing how many men who are fathers of daughters , and still don't make the connection.maybe some distraught wife will assist you with this through a private email rather than for public view.#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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